Wow!! So it turns out marriages don’t just become awesome.
It actually takes intention and dedication to be cool like us. Lol!!
For many years my husband and I did fairly well in our relationship. To be honest I felt really good. We had been together for so long and still desired each other and had a great line of communication.
It wasn’t uncommon for us to give relationship advice or for others to admit they looked up to us. I was proud of this fact if I do say so myself.... getting a little puffed up.
Then something happened and it wasn't good. I can’t really put my finger on it. Maybe, it was somewhere in between baby #2 and #3, possibly postpartum, maybe it was when my husband was gone for work ⅔ of the year for several years or possibly all of the above. I don’t really know but I do know something changed.
I wasn’t happy in our marriage or with my life. I felt I was failing as a mom, wife and friend. I hit rock bottom!! Have you ever been there before? Please, tell me that I am not the only one because IT SUCKS!! So, I began a personal development journey. Along the way I realized that not only was I changing but my marriage, my husband and my kids were also changing. It was and is awesome.
Many people don’t know how to create a fun filled and loving marriage. So, I want to share with you 3 of the best habits I learned along the way that you can start implementing right away.
Quality Time - Spend quality time together and I don’t mean sitting on the couch watching television or scrolling social media. Boring!! This means to actually look at one another and have a conversation. It doesn’t have to be all lovey dovey talking about your feelings and emotions. Just talk about your day and what happened. Share something exciting that happened to you or that you are so close to reaching a goal you set out to reach earlier in the year. Simple.
Same Bed Time - Go to bed at the same time!! You cannot feel intimate and close with one another if you are going to bed at separate times. Bedtime is the best time to cuddle up and get that much needed skin to skin contact. Yes, it is not just babies that need it. Skin to skin contact not only encourages intimacy and connection in your relationship but makes you feel happier, safe, and can reduce anxiousness.
Greet Each Other - This one is huge!! As soon as your spouse comes home from work, from a weekend trip or even just from being gone for a few hours running an errand, go and greet them. That first greeting at the end of the day will set the tone for the rest of the evening. So make it a good one. A greeting helps your spouse decompress and reduce stress from a long day at work, makes them feel important and significant and shows them that you care.
Understand that happy marriages don’t just happen by mistake. That couple you see that is happy as ever, that may even make you feel sick because you don't have what they do, are doing something in their relationship with intention. The above habits are a great place to start.
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