• Heather Marie Jessop

Creating a Marriage That Lasts A Lifetime

We all wonder what it takes to create a marriage that lasts. We see older couples so happy with life and are in awe of how they manage to stay together so long.

It isn’t uncommon for one or both spouses to become unhappy or unsatisfied with the relationship at one time or another creating a stressful situation. Especially, if poor habits were created early on in the relationship.

Marriage alone is distressing! Roughly 50 years ago several scientists did a study on the most distressing human experiences in life. It wasn’t much of a surprise to find out that several aspects of marriage ranked in the top seven.

They rank as follows...

1. Death of a spouse

2. Divorce (45%)

3. Marital Separation


7. Marriage

So, I want to share with you 4 marriage life hacks or habits that will better ensure that you create a marriage that lasts a lifetime.

Phone Free Zones (or Times) - Screen time is one of the biggest complaints I get from my clients. It is really hard to establish that much needed connection with your face buried in a phone.

So, put the damn thing down!!!

Create space in your home that is established as electronic free. Perhaps the bedroom or the dining room table at dinner time.

Share Power - Make decisions as a couple. Women tend to be more influenced by their

than the husband being influenced by his wife. The Gottman Institute did a study on marriages and 81% of them that don’t have a shared power will implode.

Men who are willing to share in the decision making tend to be outstanding fathers.

And men, you are with your wife because you respect her. Make sure that plays out in the decision making process.

Be Reliable - Follow through on your word and only commit to what you can follow

through with. Don’t over commit.

Being reliable allows your spouse to feel cared for and protected.

Don’t Stop Having Sex - As a couples we need to continually reconnect with our spouse.

Yes! There is most certainly more to intimacy than sex. However, a lack of sex creates feelings of doubt in your spouse and in the relationship.

Even if you are angry with you husband or wife having sex will help lesson the amount of anger you hold over your spouse.

Share with me in the comments below. How do you create a marriage that lasts? What habits have you formed that is creating a marriage that lasts.

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